The Lies We Never Tell

I hate lies, and I’m sure everyone would say the same— especially if you were the one lied to. I mean, it’s such a judgmental sin because once someone is caught in a lie, it’s kind of hard to forgive and trust that person, and it can cause an endless circle of hate. I’m amazed how many times I have spent judging a person who told me a lie, even a little lie to protect my feelings.


I know when I was a child, my mother scolded me for lying—to the point that if I ever came close to lying, my face would show its truth, and boy, oh boy, did she know. I’m not going to lie, I have lied several times in my life—mainly as a child (seriously, we all would be lying if we said we had not lied!). As an adult, though, they have mostly been those so-called “white lies”—like the ones that we all have told in order to protect our privacy…because not everyone needs to know our business, right? You know, like telling a person you couldn’t answer the phone because you were out or you were in the shower, but actually the phone was in your hands and you didn’t want to answer it. Come on, most people have done that, right?…. Okay, maybe the phone wasn’t in your hands but in reachable answering distance.


We all have to agree that these “little white lies” are meant to be harmless and full of protection because you would never actually say, “Hey, I had the phone in my hands at the time you called, but I didn’t really feel like talking to you, but I do now!” Most of the time, a statement turns into a lie because we can’t be diplomatic enough or fast-thinking enough to make a statement that’s true but does not sound offensive. Yeah, I like that one, because it’s so TRUE. But, before you all think I’m a liar, let’s stop right here and get to the truth of the lies that we never tell and how damaging they can be to our overall health and happiness.


You know, the ones you hear daily. What? Those inner lies like, you’re not good enough, give up, you’ll never make a difference, no one likes you, you’re not loved, you’re bad at this and that, just stay home and isolate yourself so you can be protected from the hurt of the world, if I made more money then I would be happier.


And then we have the arrogant lies which within itself is usually a double lie because we lie to ourselves that they are not arrogant, such as, what would people think if I hung out with that person, they will ruin my reputation, I’m too good to hang out with so and so, I’m better because I make more money, I’m better than this person because I have a college degree, masters degree, PHD . Seriously, you really think God is going to pat you on the back because of your education or work accomplishments?


Who are we to think we are above anyone? God humbled himself and came down as a man, born in a barn, never owned a home, and he became one of us, a common person and never, ever did He set himself above anyone. So all the lies of being better then your fellow man comes from Lucifer, who was boastful, prideful, arrogant and selfish.


Yes, selfish and he loves to feed us selfish lies just like these — they are not giving me what I want so I’ll be done with them, life is really about my happiness because that’s what matters. It’s the me, me, me, me, me lies that keeps us in a place, as if we are the most important living being in the world.


What’s really bad about these lies is we don’t even make a big deal about the destruction of them, and some of us have been carrying them around for years, like a security blanket. What? Yeah, you heard me. Years, and years and years, and, get this, we accept them as truths. Like, we actually give them a place in our brains, heart, and souls to stay. You say “No way, not me!” but yes, everyone. What’s so ironic is pride is a liar too and he loves to hang with the liar. Pride loves to keep lies tucked away into the depths of the soul. We hold on to them like they are some kind of idol or an award. Why do we do this? We all hate to be lied too. I mean, if we really thought they were bad, wouldn’t we get rid of them? Wouldn’t we treat them the same way we treat others that lie to us.

Instead we listen, accept, listen and accept, daily. Most of us are totally unaware of where they are coming from. We believe they are Truths, and we are okay carrying them around because it keeps us in line. In line, of what? In line of not being freed from the biggest liar himself, the devil. I mean, he was the first liar, and he deceived one-third of Heaven’s angels (Revelation 12:4) and, along with that, convinced them to wage war against our God (Revelation 12:7-9).


It’s scary to know that these lies murder our freedom. Freedom that our Heavenly Father gives us for believing in Him. Freedom from the lies that create oppression, depression, arrogance, selfishness and the list goes on and on. I can’t believe we give them credence over what God Himself has told us not to do.


You can fill in the blank of all the lies that keep you from being whatever he is lying to you about. We should be disgusted and angered at the author of lies, and we should fight them every day with a vengeance, just like the ones that literally come out of our mouth. But for some reason we don’t and they become the lies we never tell. I truly think they are worse then the lies we do tell because by not being angered by them we are actually accepting what the devil tells us and to me is just plain disgusting.


What can we do? Well, if you are trapped in the devil’s lies, then know you are not alone because we all are. The first step is to recognize where they are coming from, and the second step is to put on the armor of God (Ephesians 6:13-17). Read scriptures first thing in the morning and be prepared for battle. Below are some scriptures that you can meditate on daily:

For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of darkness, against the spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.


Therefore take up the whole armor of God that you may be able to withstand in the evil day and having done all, to stand.

Ephesians 6:12-13 (NKJV)


“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things…. And the God of peace will be with you”

Phillipians 4:8-9 (NIV)

May your todays and tomorrows be filled with GOD’S TRUTHS, not the devil’s lies.




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